tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794880599062240721.post945170987657803991..comments2013-11-23T21:29:09.029-05:00Comments on Finding A Needle In A Haystack: The point of these articlesBasmelechhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04278850592585606329noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1794880599062240721.post-22671731388984685642008-11-07T15:48:00.000-05:002008-11-07T15:48:00.000-05:00I am glad that you started it. One thing that is a...I am glad that you started it. <BR/>One thing that is a big discussion is whether to give shadchanim pictures so that they can give it to prospective shidduchim. <BR/><BR/>It is very easy today to find pictures online by googling the person's name; their facebook pictures come right up. At least a good clear picture would show the person at his or her best. <BR/><BR/>The other thing is that I see where some rabbonim have tried to encourage boys to date girls older than them. It is not always the boys who object to this; it is often the girls. The boys and their mothers (you see what side that I am on now) get a bad rap and the girls are the ones saying "no". <BR/><BR/>Also, people who claim to be eager to get married are often lax about checking out names and getting back to the shadchan. Someone who does shidduchim complained to me about that. <BR/><BR/>Something that I have also discovered (as a MOB) is that there are 3 classifications of girls: top girls (think Chitrik in Sfas) good girls, and girls who should not tell anyone that they are Lubavitchers. I guess that it is important to know what someone is referring to when they use one of those terms.<BR/>LeahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com