Something to ponder

I attended a shidduch get together/farbrengen this shabbos afternoon where we said tehilim, read Eternal Joy and discussed shidduchim in general. One of the ladies told me about this email she received from a list she subscribes to, from Rabbi Moss in Australia and Motzoei Shabbos she actually forwarded me the email. Thank you so much for remembering to send it on.

I do believe Rabbi moss hits the nail on the head for more people than we would think. Unfortunately many of our youth fit the bill.
Read on and decide for yourselves:

Question of the Week:
I am in my late thirties and still single. I have met dozens of guys, but none are right for me. I know what you are going to say: I am too fussy. But I can't just settle on something half good. Where is the man of my dreams?
Answer:
It doesn't make sense. You are a wonderful person with so much to offer. Why are you still alone?
There could be many reasons why someone may find it hard to find a partner. But I think in your case, the answer is simple. You're married already. You are not available, because you are involved in a longstanding intimate relationship with an imaginary Mr Right.
You have an exact picture in your mind of the perfect man, and you are so in love with that picture, you are not open to anyone else. No matter how great the guy is, he can't compare to your dream. You have become stuck in a bubble with your imaginary love, and are not really open to real people. So you haven't really met dozens of guys - you never actually meet anyone. You see them not for who they are, but rather for who they are not - the imaginary Mr Right.

A relationship means connecting with an other, someone who is not you. You can't have a relationship with a figment of your own imagination, or with your own assumed caricature of another person. You need to step out of your imagination, suspend your prejudices and really open yourself to someone else.
Let yourself be surprised. Otherwise, the man of your dreams will stay right where he is - in your dreams.
I apologize for being so harsh on you. I just want to burst your bubble, because there is a real person out there waiting for you to meet him. He deserves it. So do you.
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss